“To me, Fearless is not the absense of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, Fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, Fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.” - Taylor Swift
Ask me Stuff!
Guess who has to go and get a new suitcase tomorrow because she’s filled hers solely with the books for her dissertation ? THIS GIRL.
You are not going in circles
You are making progress in a spiral. You do come back around to where you were at the start, since recovery and healing take time, but every time you come back around to that point you’re a little higher up because you’ve got more experience, more knowledge, and more strength.
You ARE making progress
I really needed to read this!!
Anonymous asked: you are a pretentious prick who is also a transphobic piece of trash, go to hell
There is so much of this stuff in my ask box, and most of it not even anonymous, but I don’t want to call out any particular user because I know they’ll then get a lot of hateful asks and the cycle will just continue.
First off, there’s a comma splice in your ask. I just have to let you know that, on account of how I’m a pretentious prick.
I hope that I’m not transphobic. I’ve been public and vocal in my support for the rights of trans people for years, and I’ve tried over the years to amplify trans voices, from T Cooper to Stephen Ira Beatty, rather than pretending to be able to speak for them.
Look, I am a person, and I am not a particularly good one. I am screwed up and make a lot of mistakes. But I am not a piece of trash. I would imagine that you are also screwed up and make a lot of mistakes, but you aren’t a piece of trash either.
But it is still hurtful—very hurtful—to hear people call me a piece of trash. It just makes me sad to hear, the way I think it would make most people sad to hear. The certainty and lack of nuance in that characterization reflects a broader lack of nuance in online discourse these days that just bums me out.
I don’t always reblog John Green asks, but when I do, it’s because THEY ARE VERY IMPORTANT FOR THE INTERNET TO READ PLEASE.
No one is perfect, no one is lacking nuance, no one is not worthy of criticism in their lives, but also: no one should judge and blame and use the Internet as a cloak of cowardice through which to act out your worst instincts.
No one, ever, should open their ask box to discover that someone has targeted them for abuse.
Everyone, every single of one of us, is required in the struggle to raise the bar of online communication.